Monday, June 24, 2013

Headspace

Virginia Wolf once wrote "A woman must have money and a room of one's own if she is to write fiction."  If Virginia Wolf had been a blogger she probably would have wrote that "A person needs a workplace with much down time and a lax IT department in order to blog".

You also need to be in the right headspace.  And for the past year, I have not really been in the headspace for some things I because other things were crowding my mind.  Its kind of like how you can remember all of the words to "Material Girl", but you can't for the life of you remember why you are in the basement.

In the past 12 months we've moved twice and I changed jobs.  My first job out here was a "Mr. Right Now" in that the money wasn't awful (although the commute sucked), but it was a pleasant enough place to work, and the workload was light enough that I could focus on reading up on and developing my strategic HR skills, so when the job I really wanted came about, I was ready for it.

We also decided that it was in our best interests to buy a house instead of rent, so the looking, purchasing, and moving took up time.

It was also a slow time in swing land.  We went on a few dates, but not much materialized, and while I searched online, I didn't find a lot of couples that really got my motor revved up.   Also, the combination of applying for job after job and hearing crickets, did not leave me in the best headspace for sending out email overtures and hearing nothing.  Really employers and other people, take the five minutes to send that 'thanks, but no thanks' note instead of letting people hang out there.

That changed this weekend.  We went on a date with some blogger friends that were visiting the area from out of state, and while we hit it off, mother nature cruelly kept us from consummating our relationship.   Luckily, my job has an office in their neck of the woods, so I am sure I will find some imperative HR emergency that will bring me up there in the early fall.

However, being with them reminded me of the fun to be had when everyone hits it off, and although it can be a pain to find those people, its worth it when you do.

My last goal is getting into top shape.  For years I have dieted and lost weight, and gained it back, and well, lather, rinse, repeat to infinity.  This time though, I have changed my focus.  Instead of just dieting, I am reshaping my eating habits around performance.  I think about what I need to accomplish that day, and my mood, and am planning my eating around it.  I also am trying to convince myself that sugar and white carbs, while tasty, will not help me perform at my best whether it is mentally or physically.

I figured that since I signed up to run 10 miles this fall, the less of me I have to drag around for 10 miles, the easier its going to be to finish in a respectable amount of time.

Also, big thanks to those of you who keep stopping by my blog, and especially those of you that have emailed me to say hi.  Its been hard to decide what to do with this space.  I couldn't bear t't o shut it down, when I had invested so much of my time and energy into it, and I wanted to have a place left in case Hubman and I ever wanted to post any naughty photos or stories.

I could promise you all regular posts, but I have done that before, and I don't want to lie.  I hope to keep at it enough to make my regular readers keep me in whatever their feed will be when Google Reader shits the bed.  (BTW- where should I go?)  I need to figure that out soon.

Happy Monday everyone and remember:



Tuesday, January 1, 2013

TMI Tuesday-Sex Games People Play


Happy New Year Everyone!  I hope that everyone had a great New Year's Eve and is ready to tackle hug 2013!
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Questions submitted by Virtualsin.wordpress.com
1. Did you ever play strip poker (or strip spin-the-bottle, or similar)?
Did nudity result? Were there further developments? Details please.  
                                         I have never played either, but am open to the idea.
2. Did you ever play a nude party game, such as Naked Twister? Did it
lead to anything further?  
                                                                                                                        Not Naked Twister, but when Hubman and I went to our favorite swinger parties in Massachusetts, the hosts had this game called "Guess the butt".  A group of guys or girls would line up, and a member of the opposite sex would go around blindfolded, feeling each butt until he or she found the butt she came with.  I played this once and was unsuccessful in guessing Hubman's butt.
3. Did you ever play a game of Truth or Dare that led to nudity, or
fondling, or more?        
                                                                                                                            No.  Clearly I need to get out more.
4. Did you ever attend a party that led to sex with a more or less randomly chosen partner, i.e., swingers-lifstyle party, key party*?
*key party – A couples party where all of the men put their car keys into a bowl or bag and at the end of the party, the women blindly select a set of keys to determine who she goes home with for the rest of the evening for sexual gratification.                    
                                                                                                        Hubman and I attended several swinger parties, and even managed to get busy with others a time or two.
5. Did you ever participate in unexpected co-ed skinny dipping in a
group?  
                                                                                                                                                       Hot tub yes. Pool or ocean no.
Bonus: Do you have a favorite fantasy about a sexy party?
Please share.                                                                                                                                                 Me, Hubman, a few close and lovely lady friends, in a suite in a warm and sunshiny place.  Some champagne and times so good that the Westboro Baptist Church will protest our vacation.

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Happy TMI Tuesday!

Monday, December 24, 2012

So far I have one child who believes in Santa and one who does not.  I am sure that the Princess will join her brother in the non-belief some day, but I can still have them appreciate the spirit of Christmas.  

"DEAR EDITOR: I am 8 years old.
"Some of my little friends say there is no Santa Claus.
"Papa says, 'If you see it in THE SUN it's so.'
"Please tell me the truth; is there a Santa Claus?

"VIRGINIA O'HANLON.
"115 WEST NINETY-FIFTH STREET."

VIRGINIA, your little friends are wrong. They have been affected by the skepticism of a skeptical age. They do not believe except they see. They think that nothing can be which is not comprehensible by their little minds. All minds, Virginia, whether they be men's or children's, are little. In this great universe of ours man is a mere insect, an ant, in his intellect, as compared with the boundless world about him, as measured by the intelligence capable of grasping the whole of truth and knowledge.

Yes, VIRGINIA, there is a Santa Claus. He exists as certainly as love and generosity and devotion exist, and you know that they abound and give to your life its highest beauty and joy. Alas! how dreary would be the world if there were no Santa Claus. It would be as dreary as if there were no VIRGINIAS. There would be no childlike faith then, no poetry, no romance to make tolerable this existence. We should have no enjoyment, except in sense and sight. The eternal light with which childhood fills the world would be extinguished.

Not believe in Santa Claus! You might as well not believe in fairies! You might get your papa to hire men to watch in all the chimneys on Christmas Eve to catch Santa Claus, but even if they did not see Santa Claus coming down, what would that prove? Nobody sees Santa Claus, but that is no sign that there is no Santa Claus. The most real things in the world are those that neither children nor men can see. Did you ever see fairies dancing on the lawn? Of course not, but that's no proof that they are not there. Nobody can conceive or imagine all the wonders there are unseen and unseeable in the world.
You may tear apart the baby's rattle and see what makes the noise inside, but there is a veil covering the unseen world which not the strongest man, nor even the united strength of all the strongest men that ever lived, could tear apart. Only faith, fancy, poetry, love, romance, can push aside that curtain and view and picture the supernal beauty and glory beyond. Is it all real? Ah, VIRGINIA, in all this world there is nothing else real and abiding.

No Santa Claus! Thank God! he lives, and he lives forever. A thousand years from now, Virginia, nay, ten times ten thousand years from now, he will continue to make glad the heart of childhood.


And because they are my favorite... here are some great Christmas surprises



I also love this one

Sunday, December 23, 2012

Christmas Meme


I stole this from Hubman and goodness only knows where he got it from.

1. Eggnog or Hot Chocolate?                                                                                                           Hot chocolate, especially Starbuck's Salted Caramel Hot Chocolate.  
2. Does Santa wrap presents or just sit them under the tree?                                                    Not only does Santa wrap them, he uses a special wrapping paper that is not used on any other gifts, and gets someone from their office to write out the labels so the kids don't recognize the handwriting. 
3. Colored lights on the tree/house or white?                                                                           Colored lights on the tree, white lights outside.  I love the people that go absolutely nuts with the lights, but I don't think I would have the patience to hang all of those lights.  
4. Do you hang mistletoe?                                                                                                                  No, we do not.  But maybe I should find me some mistletoe panties.
5. When do you put your decorations up?                                                                                        I put out my holiday themed plates- 
Nikko's Winter Wonderland the Day after Thanksgiving and we decorate the house the weekend after Thanksgiving.  We get the tree about 10-14 days before Christmas.  We usually get the tree from a local lot that sells for charity (Scouts, Lions) but some friends gave me some leads on some places in PA where we can cut down our own tree. 
6. What is your favorite holiday dish (excluding dessert)?                                                      Growing up in an Italian family, I loved the feast of the seven fishes on Christmas Eve. However, now that I live with people who don't really enjoy fish we don't do that.  I usually make lasagna for Christmas dinner and grilled cheese sandwiches with pepperoni bread for lunch.  Now that Hubman and I are trying to live the low carb life, both of these are a big treat. 
7. Favorite holiday memory as a child?                                                                                            Growing up my mom hosted Christmas and everyone came to our house.  This continued through high school and college, and I always loved how she welcomed my friends over for the extended dinner.  Since the bulk of my friends were jewish, they enjoyed coming over for some baked ziti and chicken marsalla for dinner.  For me that welcoming spirit is what Christmas is all about.
8. When and how did you learn the truth about Santa?                                                               I learned late (12) when a friend of mind was incredulous that I still believed.  However I do believe in Santa as part of the spirit of Christmas. 
9. Do you open gifts on Christmas Eve?                                                                                         Hubman and I have developed a tradition of exchanging ‘naughty Santa’ gifts on Christmas Eve. Thankfully last year I could not make up my mind between two items, so I saved one for this year.  This is a good thing, since I do not know where the naughty store is around here.
10. What kind of cookies does Santa get set out for him?                                                        I'm thinking he will get fudge crinkles and peanut butter cookies with the Hershey Kisses in them.
11. Snow! Love it or dread it?                                                                                                                  I used to love it, but like birthday parties, candy binges and wearing lots of pink, glittery clothes, snow is for children.
12. Can you ice skate?                                                                                                                               I can.  I can go forwards, backwards, fast and do spins.   Its one of the few sports where I am more skilled than Hubman.                                                                                                                      
13. Do you remember your favorite gift?                                                                                            When I was six I got the Barbie Dream House with the elevator you would pull with a string.  

More recently?  Last year Hubman and the kids bought me a beautiful necklace with a red heart with matching earrings.
14. What’s the most important thing about the holidays for you?                                           Spending time with my family.  Hopefully seeing three delighted faces. 
15. What is your favorite holiday dessert?                                                                                    I'm a slut for the cookies, even though they are easy to binge on.  
16. What is your favorite holiday tradition?                                                                                    I love our pajama day Christmas.  The kids get holiday themed pj's which they wear Christmas Eve, and all day Christmas day. Hubman and I wear holiday pajamas too.  Then we hang around the house all day and watch movies and enjoy the gifts and each other. 
17. What tops your tree?                                                                                                                         An angel, placed each year by Princess Persistent
18. What do you prefer… giving or receiving?                                                                                 I love the giving part.  There is no better feeling than seeing the look on someone's face when you got them a present that they really like.  I am also a big fan of getting toys for toy drives and adopting a family.
19. What is your favorite Christmas carol?                                                                                    In church I love to sing Angels We Have Heard on High.  I also love Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas, and I am partial to Martina McBride's Version.
20. Candy canes… yuck or yum?                                                                                                  Yummy!
21. Have you ever recycled a Christmas present?                                                                         No, but I have returned things.
22. Favorite Christmas movie?                                                                                                          Miracle on 34th Street.  (The 1994 Version)
23. Do you have a nativity scene?                                                                                                      We do, it looks more like a kids toy that a traditional one, however.  I think about getting a really nice Lenox type one, and spending a few years doing add a piece for Christmas, but I have not found a set I really like yet.
24. What’s the most annoying thing about this time of year?                                                    The fact that Christmas stuff comes out earlier and earlier every year. 
BTW, for those of you interested, Hubman and I both did some naughty Christmas Pictures. 

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Award Winning Cookies

Ok, I didn't win an award, but I did win my office bake-off with these cookies.  I love to make cookies at Christmas, and I used to pride myself on making elaborate cookies with tons of ingredients.

Now, I am into keeping things simple, especially since I have 'helpers' when I bake.  With an extra person (or two) involved in the process, if I have a recipe with 10 ingredients, unless I lay them all out before the kids start helping, there is a chance that something would be forgotten.

These cookies are very simple, with only 4 ingredients.  They come together quickly and are delicious.  I found this recipe in Taste of Home Magazine, where a lot of good cookie recipes live.

I haven't experimented, but I bet you can switch around the cookie dough and type of chips and make a lot of different, tasty cookies.

Creme de Menthe Cheesecake Cookies (Makes 4 Dozen)

Ingredients
1 Tube Slice and Bake Sugar Cookie Dough
1 8oz Package Cream Cheese, softened
1 egg
1 1/3 Cup Mint Chocolate Chips

Directions
1. Let cookie dough stand at room temperature for 5 minutes to soften.
2. In a large bowl, beat cream cheese until fluffy.
3. Add egg and cookie dough, beat until combined.
4. Add mint chips and mix well
5. Drop on ungreased cookie sheets 2 inches apart.  (I use parchment paper)
6. Bake at 350 for 9-12 minutes or until lightly browned.
7. Cool for 2 minutes on cookie sheet before moving to wire rack to cool completely

They are not the prettiest cookies, but they are yumtastic!



Sunday, December 16, 2012

Sandy Hook

I am still reeling from the events of Friday at Sandy Hook Elementary School.  As the parent of two children, one the same age as many of the slaughtered children, this evil event just rocks me to the core.

Many will be said in the next few days about gun control, mental illness, violence, etc., until we are distracted by something else.

I am still wrapping my thoughts around all of this so a cogent post is not happening tonight.  However, I leave you with the mashup of the Clinton, Bush, Obama speeches following some gun violence tragedies.



Thursday, December 6, 2012

Cookie Exchange

As many of my long time readers know, I am a big fan of baking and cooking.  I especially love to bake during the holidays and I was thrilled when JZ of A Reluctant Bitch invited me to join this year's exchange.

Every year I try to make a new recipe, but Hubman would be very, very disappointed if a batch of these were not lying around.  You do need to chill the dough for at least three hours, so this is a plan ahead cookie, but that is not too hard.  What is hard is keeping errant spoons out of the chilling batter.
 
I also recommend keeping a damp paper towel to clean your hands a little so you can rinse them off periodically without totally wrecking your sink.


Chocolate Puffs (Makes 4doz)

1/4 lb softened butter
1 1/2C Sugar
1 Teaspoon Vanilla
6oz semisweet chocolate, melted (chips are fine)
4 eggs
2 C Flour
2 teaspoons baking powder
Pinch of Salt
Powdered Sugar
Parchment paper

1. Cream butter and sugar.
2. Add vanilla and melted chocolate, mix well
3. Add eggs, mix well
4. Add all dry ingredients except powdered sugar and mix well.
5. Cover with plastic wrap and chill 2-3 hours or over night- Dough is ready when you can roll into balls
6. Heat oven to 350, prepare baking sheets with parchment paper.
7. Roll dough into 1/2 inch balls.
8. Roll balls in powdered sugar, put on prepared pans, 2" apart.  do not try to squeeze extra on pans as they spread
9. Bake 10-12 min.
10. Remove cookies while on parchment and allow to cool completely.  
11. Carefully loosen edges with metal spatula and remove cookies from parchment (I find many of them fall off)
12. Store in airtight container so they stay chewy.


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